i'm a man not a boy

I lovvvvvvvvvvvvve this song hehe *blushes profusely* possibly just because it reminds me of being an innocent 14 year old ;)

AND I just bought the CD single for 5p on eBay!! Woo!!

arranged marriage

After careful reading of a friends blog I’m finally going to write something in response to some thoughts and feelings that have arisen in me. This has to be in two parts because I’m afraid some of it contradicts itself hehe!


Part I

Ok, so this person is Indian and has just recently married in an arranged marriage, from what I gather the parents of the prospective couple matches them up according to horoscope and job (i.e. so they are a match I presume).

Now to me in my culture and society this seems a little strange and unlikely to work out – I mean, how accurate are horoscope matches? I know Russell Grant does a pretty good job, but...

And job? What does career have to do with love? Yes, to live together in the modern world you need money to survive, but does equal money and status really matter for a relationship?

Anyway, reading what he has said, it seems that this matcheroo was set up and he went to meet the girl, shared coffee, talked for a couple of hours and then got married a couple of months after. They had a nice honeymoon and are now trying to thrash out a life together.

How can two people be matched up on paper, talk for a tiny amount of time, and then spend their entire lives together? Ridiculous? Preposterous? Silly? Read on...


Part II

Now logical old me would say “yes – that is silly, that just won’t work out”. But, I have to cast my mind back to how I met Bri (the man I live with and will be living with for the foreseeable and beyond future).

We met on the internet – through a profile site, basically you have some information and photos on a profile and you can message other people. So, in a sense – you details down on paper.

We messaged a few times and decided to meet up. We had one date, shared a pizza, and talked for a number of hours.

The next day I changed my myspace status to ‘in relationship’, rang him up and asked him to come over a day earlier than our arranged second date, and by the day after that we’d already exchanged the Immortal Words (“when two lovers woo...”).

Is that so different from what happened to the people who had the arranged marriage? I suppose the only difference is that it was our choice and not that of our parents, and there was no pressure that this ‘had’ to be the One. It just turned out that way.

Things like this always make me ponder...

fate #2 (return of the killer fate)

My grandad used to give me a £5 note with the predictable tag on “buy a car” (even though I couldn’t drive and still don’t).

I always used to just dismiss it and keep the £5 in a money box I still have, shaped like a house :D

I also used to collect 5p coins (when the new one came out it was so cute and I liked them – I used to keep them in a money box shaped like a teddy which I also still have :D)

Anywayyyyy my grandma and grandad always used to save 5p’s for me and give me them in a little jar, and when I had enough I put them in my Halifax ISA account (you need £5 worth to put in a bag so they can weigh it and put it in).

Bri’s old car was a bit of a wreck, on it’s last legs. It was an old Vauxhall Astra – a grizzly old bsatard car hehe.

(Like this but red)

Just recently we decided enough was enough and bought a new car – a Daihatsu Sirion.


We got a part-exchange with the old car – the exchange was for metallic blue paint (£300 value – there’s no way we’d have got that for the old car, and we don’t have the hassle of selling it now).

I got the money out of my Halifax ISA account. So in the end I did buy a car.

As a side note, I like the fact that I had to put £5 worth of 5p’s into the account – fate working it’s magic again!

post no. 200 - "Fate"

I’m a firm believer in fate and destiny. Let’s just put that down there as a fact.

Lots of stuff has happened to me over the recent past (and if I think of it my whole life really) that has happened for a reason, or a major (seeming) coincidence, or just simple amazing fact that has made my life much better for it happening (so in my mind it couldn’t have been any other way).

Over Easter I was pondering, and I glanced up to my necklace hangy thing and I remembered I got this necklace in Florida, a Mickey Mouse pendant with little crystals on it and I thought it was so pretty. I remember the tag on it said ‘Australian Crystal’. Now I don’t know if they make crystals in Australia, but I Know they make them in Austria.

This provoked the further thought that my grandma was asked if she wanted to move to Australia after the war, and she thought they meant Austria, so she said no, and that’s why they moved to England instead.

Bri’s dad was talking one time about him family, and the fact that they had the opportunity to go to Australia in the 60s (I think some of his family did in fact).

If circumstances had thrown our two families across the world, would we have still met when the time was right. The universe is a conspirer who only wants the best for people. What is it that is so important that we have to be together to achieve it I wonder?

*blushes*